Strike the word “maybe” from your relationship vocabulary.
This is partially about being efficient and not wasting your precious time.
Partially about deciphering what we really mean when we think about people in terms of maybe.
But mostly about how to decide whether the person you’re with is worth your time… and it’s a pretty simple process to find out how you really feel.
Just ask yourself if you can see being with them long term.
“I would be okay with that.” “I can see it.” “Maybe.”
Maybe is a myth. Maybe means no.
If at any point in your relationship, you maybe want to commit to your partner, it means you don’t want to.
If at any point in your courtship, you maybe want to keep seeing them, it means you don’t want to.
It’s a matter of realizing that saying maybe is actually just a way of rationalizing not saying no in the name of: security, the fear of being alone, and avoiding change. Listen, change is always difficult, but it’s not always negative. Sunk costs are a hell of a thing.
Don’t we deserve more than that… and always yearn for it? A partner that makes you think YES, HELL YES, GIVE ME MORE! One that makes you thirst for more of them, and that you can miss like crazy if they are gone for an hour.
I’m a realist – fairytales don’t reflect reality, and those expectations can sometimes be damaging. But that doesn’t mean we should settle for “maybe.”