In my previous post, I distinguished between the pickup line and the conversation starter. The best pickup line I can recommend is simply “Hey, what’s your name?”
It’s easy, unpretentious, non-manipulative… and has a powerful freeing mindset. It allows you to be free and not depend on a certain circumstance or topic to arise, otherwise known as a crutch.
But I also recommend scratching the whole pickup mentality… because when you’re just engaging a woman to sleep with her, you psych yourself out and lose sight of the conversation and connection at hand that must flow well for the opportunity to even sleep with her.
So changing that mentality to simply wondering what she’s like, and starting a conversation as organically as your context allows… what does that leave us with?
I’ll tell you what. My best conversation starters… EVER!
- Make an observation TO her.
“Whoa, that guy’s hair is insane.”
“Can she sneeze any louder?”
“Did that guy really just do the splits?”
“And I thought New Yorkers were supposed to be mean.”
“Wait, the bus is coming WHEN?!”
- Make an observation ABOUT her.
“My 5 year old niece has the same backpack”
“You don’t see actual iPods much anymore.”
“You walk even faster than me… I’m impressed”
“Did that guy just try to grab your boots?”
“I think you shirt is going to come alive and eat me.”
The reason these work is because they are typically offhand comments that beg a response. They also aren’t threatening, which means that men will be far more comfortable using them as opposed to something more direct. As I usually say, the dating techniques and approaches that work for you are the ones that you’ll actually use.
Just keep in mind that you are looking for a connection when you talk to women, and often times any chance for a connection will shut down if a woman feels like she is pressured or being approached too aggressively. You’ll just be one of those guys she tells her friends about while laughing.