It’s extremely common for people to go cold. That is, you are having a great, engaging exchange of messages, perhaps even a nice date, and she suddenly stops replying.
So what do you do at that point? You know that there was some initial interest and (presumably) spark, so how do you go about trying to recapture it?
Here’s my simple, binary view of the issue. You can either wait for them to get back to you, or send a second message. My recommendation is to do the first, then the second.
Depending on the nature and engagement of your conversation, wait somewhere from 4-7 days to see if see if they actually replies. There are any number of reasons that she may not have replied to you yet, despite your previous messages being only minutes apart. You’ll might be glad you waited.
If there is no reply, send a short follow-up after that cut-off point. If they are not interested anymore, is seeing someone else exclusively now, is out of town, or any other reason, they simply won’t reply. (It’s important to note that most potential reasons probably aren’t even related to you.) And that’s okay.
If she is still interested and was working things out with any number of issues in her life, then she’ll be glad to see your reminder message.
The second message is literally a no-lose situation.
Make sure that your tone is nonchalant, or else it will probably be perceived as desperate. You can go two ways: either just a statement, or just directly asking them out. The following example combines both.
Example: (referring to something from the most previous message you sent, and how you came upon it nonchalantly) You know, I just stumbled upon a John Mayer Pandora station today, and I think his more recent albums do keep that older vibe.
I know we were talking about that place Harry’s, but my friend just told me about a place that’s even crazier, Winston’s. I’m free this Thursday at 7, care to check it out?