4 Easy Ways to Be Funny On Command

I love watching standup comedy, but I never wanted to be a comedian. Why not? Because it is one of the hardest jobs in the world that people don’t realize. You are essentially creating an emotion on command, consistently, for an hour at a time. Movies spend millions and can’t do this whenever they want. For example, how often do you cry at movies, versus how often do movies try to make you cry? It’s pretty unbalanced! But that’s beside the point – most of us want to be funny, but in a conversational, everyday manner that we can utilize …

4 Non-Manipulative Persuasion Tactics

Persuasion is a loaded word, isn’t it? The word itself typically evokes an image of one of two things: a used car salesman who slaps you on the back and pretends to be your best friend… or an intense salary negotiation. But… Persuasion is a facet of everyday life. Allow me to elaborate. Everything we want in life, from the people to the jobs to the type of restaurant we want for dinner, they won’t be 100% consensuses. People won’t agree with you all the time, and certainly not on things that you want. Persuasion is the key to anything …

Workplace Conversation Tactics – 5 ways to Get Ahead at Work

Hey you! Are you NOT where you want to be in your office? Do you feel like you’re constantly overlooked? You just might have to play the game a little bit… but that’s not a bad thing. Playing the game just means recognizing that your office and work in general — it’s not a meritocracy. You don’t necessarily get what you put in, and there certainly isn’t a direct correlation to your intelligence and your position. Just read any scarily-accurate Dilbert comic for confirmation of that! Here are 5 easy ways to get ahead at work and WIN office politics …

4 Steps to Fearless Social Confidence

Social confidence is something that I like to call a gateway emotion. With social confidence, the world looks like a meadow of possibilities. Every networking event is just an opportunity to meet someone amazing, and even the chance to improve your career. You are excited as opposed to anxious. Without social confidence? The world is a bleak and unforgiving place. Everything is a chance to screw up, feel stupid, and turn red from judgment. Feelings of despair and hopelessness are never far away, and sometimes you just stay in your room to avoid it all. For those that have come …

How To Be a “People Person”

What exactly does it mean to be a “people person?” It’s a loaded term that people impart a lot of meaning to. Here’s what you probably mean when you say that you want to be a better people person – you want to be able to blend in seamlessly among any crowd and make them like you. That’s really the gist of it. But the way to achieve that loft goal goes far beyond surface level thinking of “I’m going to be funny” or “I’m going to be nice and compliment them.” If you go about it that way, then …

5 Conversation Tactics for Social Situations

Oh, we’ve all been there. It’s a nice event or party but suddenly we run out of things to say to the person across from us. We take multiple sips of our drink while continually muttering “Yeah… that was so funny… yeah…” and hope that a beam falls from the ceiling so you have something to talk about. Crap, this conversation is beyond salvaging and you were really hoping to make a connection with that influential person! If this sounds familiar or brings back painful flashbacks, worry no more. Here are 5 conversation tactics for social situations you can use …

First Impressions: 8 Essential Components for Instant Charm

I’ve been marinating on this one for a while, but I’m happy to present the 8 Essential Components for a Bulletproof First Impression. Create instant charm easily by keeping it simple. If you want read more in depth about first impressions and connecting instantly, you might want to check out my book Connect Instantly: 60 Seconds to Likability!

Difficult Conversations – 4 Ways To Confront (Without Feeling Like a Confrontation)

No matter how charming you are, not every conversation you partake in is going to be a pleasure. Now, this means one of two things. First, it means that you might not enjoy the people you are talking to. This happens frequently. Second, and more importantly, it means that some of your conversations are by nature difficult, awkward, and confrontational. When you need to talk to you co-worker about how she talks too much, or to your girlfriend about how you need more space when you’re with your friends – these are not easy conversations for anyone. You know what …

Social skills as a habit.

Most people accept that the world is not a meritocracy. You can have the best credentials and resume in the world and (1) not make partner, (2) not get that promotion, and (3) not even get your foot in the door. It happens routinely, and most of the time we accept it as a result of the age-old adage Life is about who you know… I’d like to add an addendum to that saying, that it’s not actually about who you know, it’s about who likes you. That’s the importance of building social skills as a habit. Social skills are …

Tension – the biggest key to eye contact. Period.

You’re bad at eye contact because there is too much tension. You all know the feeling. When you lock eyes with someone, a sense of tension starts building in your eyeballs. Sometimes, this means that the longest eye contact you can maintain with someone is 2-3 seconds.