Three Techniques to Improve Your Conversations

One of my greatest regrets is not being able to find the time to attend more improv comedy workshops in my life. I attended one, loved it, and felt like a fish out of water, BUT was promptly besieged by other obligations and duties. Man, being an adult sucks sometimes… But I did pick up quite a bit during my time there. My most important takeaway was that improv comedy and sparkling conversation share the exact same goal: a pleasurable interaction for the audience. Of course, the audience for improv comedy is the people in the chairs, while the audience …

3 Methods for Building Self-Confidence

[This is a guest post from my friend, Devin Tracy.] “Nobody knows what they are doing, confidence is key.” – Ryan Kulp It’s true, self confidence sells.  I help clients prepare for interviews, become better public speakers, build professional networks, talk to members of the other sex, and boost their overall social skills.  The number one issue that plagues all of my clients: lack of self confidence. Self confidence is the foundation on which all successful endeavors are built. That’s why I put this post together on the Top 3 Methods to Build Self Confidence.

3 Scientifically Proven Methods to be REALLY Attractive

Lots of us think that we’re great at attracting the opposite sex, but are we? We might be doing it all wrong, or we might even be doing the right thing for all the wrong reasons. To boot, we are only drawing on a sample size of ONE person (ourselves), or an echo chamber of friends that might not necessarily know better. This all means that we’re largely operating in the dark when it comes to matters of sparking and engineering attraction. SCIENCE TO THE RESCUE! Probably because sex is an incredible motivator, a metric ton of research has been …

4 Life-Saving Introvert Party Tactics

Introvert – the term has been thrown a lot in recent years, and many people still confuse the meaning. It has nothing to do with being socially awkward, shy, or feeling anxiety at the prospect of other people. People can also have those things, but an introvert by himself or herself is defined by one thing – their social battery. The social battery measures the amount of social energy a person has, and the social battery of an introvert needs solitude and quiet time to recharge to the point where they can keep talking to others comfortably. Of course, the …

Four Keys to Fearless Public Speaking

Public speaking is routinely listed as one of people’s most common fears, and it’s no surprise. You feel like you’re isolated and put under a microscope for people to judge and pick you apart – even if they’re your friends! Now compound that anxiety and stress if you don’t feel 100% comfortable with your material, or if there is the possibility of crowd interaction, things going wrong, and you having to go completely off-script. Cue the sweating palms and shaking voice. Yeah, that can be terrifying.

4 Easy Ways to Be Funny On Command

I love watching standup comedy, but I never wanted to be a comedian. Why not? Because it is one of the hardest jobs in the world that people don’t realize. You are essentially creating an emotion on command, consistently, for an hour at a time. Movies spend millions and can’t do this whenever they want. For example, how often do you cry at movies, versus how often do movies try to make you cry? It’s pretty unbalanced! But that’s beside the point – most of us want to be funny, but in a conversational, everyday manner that we can utilize …

4 Non-Manipulative Persuasion Tactics

Persuasion is a loaded word, isn’t it? The word itself typically evokes an image of one of two things: a used car salesman who slaps you on the back and pretends to be your best friend… or an intense salary negotiation. But… Persuasion is a facet of everyday life. Allow me to elaborate. Everything we want in life, from the people to the jobs to the type of restaurant we want for dinner, they won’t be 100% consensuses. People won’t agree with you all the time, and certainly not on things that you want. Persuasion is the key to anything …

Workplace Conversation Tactics – 5 ways to Get Ahead at Work

Hey you! Are you NOT where you want to be in your office? Do you feel like you’re constantly overlooked? You just might have to play the game a little bit… but that’s not a bad thing. Playing the game just means recognizing that your office and work in general — it’s not a meritocracy. You don’t necessarily get what you put in, and there certainly isn’t a direct correlation to your intelligence and your position. Just read any scarily-accurate Dilbert comic for confirmation of that! Here are 5 easy ways to get ahead at work and WIN office politics …

4 Steps to Fearless Social Confidence

Social confidence is something that I like to call a gateway emotion. With social confidence, the world looks like a meadow of possibilities. Every networking event is just an opportunity to meet someone amazing, and even the chance to improve your career. You are excited as opposed to anxious. Without social confidence? The world is a bleak and unforgiving place. Everything is a chance to screw up, feel stupid, and turn red from judgment. Feelings of despair and hopelessness are never far away, and sometimes you just stay in your room to avoid it all. For those that have come …

How To Be a “People Person”

What exactly does it mean to be a “people person?” It’s a loaded term that people impart a lot of meaning to. Here’s what you probably mean when you say that you want to be a better people person – you want to be able to blend in seamlessly among any crowd and make them like you. That’s really the gist of it. But the way to achieve that loft goal goes far beyond surface level thinking of “I’m going to be funny” or “I’m going to be nice and compliment them.” If you go about it that way, then …